Most guys love breasts. Whether they’re big or small, perky or slightly saggy, or real or surgically enhanced, boobs are incredibly awesome, and they’re a lot of fun to play with. So you probably want to know how to play with them in a way that’s pleasurable for both you and your partner. See tips below
1) Don’t bite — unless she asks you to
Even if she’s writhing and moaning with pleasure, you shouldn’t get carried away and bite or pull her nipple without her consent. If you sense that she might like it rough, ask, “Do you want more?” or “Harder?” before nibbling on or pulling on her nipple. While some women really enjoy rough breast play, others do not, and you don’t want to interrupt your good time or hers by crossing that line without her consent.
2) Focus on the areola
When you feel like she’s ready — and if she’s making a lot of noise or writhing around with pleasure, she’s probably ready — move onto the areola, the dark-colored circle that surrounds the nipple, which is actually more sensitive than the nipple itself. Focus especially on the upper quadrant of her breast, between 10 and 2 o’clock. It’s the most sensitive part of the bull’s-eye. Gently stroke the nipple and circle the areola with a finger, or circle the nipple with your thumb and forefinger.
3) Don’t head for the nipple right away
As Debby Herbenick, PhD, previously explained to MensHealth.com, nipples vary widely in terms of sensitivity, so if you’re not quite sure what she likes, you need to work your way up to nipple stimulation. Start off by gently stroking or massaging the tops, bottoms, and sides of her breasts. Alternate with lightly kissing her neck, earlobes, and collarbone. That’ll help build anticipation and leave her wanting more.
4) Get your mouth involved — but be gentle
If she seems to be enjoying herself, use your tongue to very lightly draw circles around her nipple. If her nipple is erect, gently flick it with your tongue a few times before slowly and gently taking her nipple into your mouth. Alternate between licking and sucking on her nipple. (If she has inverted nipples, which approximately 10 to 20% of women do, you can lure the nipples out with touching, kissing, licking, and gentle sucking, but you might have to work a little harder.)
After a while, you can give your mouth a break and go back to gently circling and stroking her nipples — she might enjoy the varying pressure.
According to a UCLA study, women who are unhappy with their breast size are 16 times more likely to hide their breasts during sex. Which is a bummer, because you don’t just want to see her breasts — you also want her to feel safe and secure and turned-on.
It might help to compliment her on her breasts early in foreplay. “Comment on her high responsiveness to stimulation,” says Patti Britton, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist (i.e., “your nipples are so hard right now.”) Alternatively, something as simple as “Oh, wow, you have amazing boobs” could be just the confidence boost she needs.
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